Home Tools & Concepts Anonymity Unity, Community, and Recovery

Unity, Community, and Recovery

3 min read
0

The OA-HOW structured meeting format says to avoid sharing with others the names of anyone who sponsors me or whom I sponsor. I avoid discussing with third parties particular identifying details of what other OA members share with me unless the member has given me permission to do so. If another member begins to mention in casual conversation an OA member who is not present, I ask them to stop so that we avoid gossip or the potential for gossip.

In my experience, members sharing about other members seems to happen frequently, albeit with innocence and lack of malice. In these instances, I still ask members to stop sharing about others so that we avoid the appearance of gossip, unintentional harm to members who thought what they shared was being held in confidence, or opening the door to gossip and distraction from OA recovery practices in the future.

Sharing personal information related to OA service is different than naming members in personal conversations. Sharing general contact information for Twelfth Step outreach is needed so that we can maintain contact with each other and reach out to other members.

Practicing anonymity has trained me to be disciplined about information sharing. For me, this has made observing patient privacy while working in healthcare easier to understand and follow than it would have been without my OA training.

Practicing anonymity in OA lets me be one among many without fear of being judged socially or slipping into belittling or alienating others, including other OA members whom I need to be with in order to recover to the maximum extent possible. Practicing anonymity helps me support unity, community, and recovery for all compulsive eaters. These values are imperative both for the OA Fellowship and my social and emotional growth at work, home, and in the community.

— Anonymous 

  • Sharing Ourselves

    Did you know that the opposite of anonymous is “onymous”? How different would our lives be…
  • Key Suggestions

    OA suggests that personal anonymity be practiced not only when we meet or talk about someo…
  • Faith and Trust

    Recently, I experienced having my anonymity broken. It was painful, but in working through…
Load More Related Articles
  • Applied Lessons

    I came to my first Twelve Step fellowship and got sober in 1983. G-d put a lovely woman in…
  • Lesson for a Simple Approach

    I am currently three and a half years abstinent and working Steps Ten, Eleven, and Twelve …
  • Sharing Ourselves

    Did you know that the opposite of anonymous is “onymous”? How different would our lives be…
Load More By kmcguire@oa.org
  • Sharing Ourselves

    Did you know that the opposite of anonymous is “onymous”? How different would our lives be…
  • Key Suggestions

    OA suggests that personal anonymity be practiced not only when we meet or talk about someo…
  • Faith and Trust

    Recently, I experienced having my anonymity broken. It was painful, but in working through…
Load More In Anonymity
Comments are closed.

Check Also

Applied Lessons

I came to my first Twelve Step fellowship and got sober in 1983. G-d put a lovely woman in…