The Difference That Satisfies Sometimes it’s quite hard to see the difference between a plan of eating, which says what I’m going to eat and in what quantity, and a diet, which also says what I’m going to eat and in what quantity. For me, the difference is about purpose and how I feel about it. In the old days, the diets I went … Read More
Principle Portions A plan of eating is only one of the Tools, but it’s a great introduction to working the program when worked diligently. Ever since I began using a weighed-and-measured plan and calling it in to a sponsor every day (a process I resisted mightily!), I have been noticing the lessons it teaches me about the Principles behind the Steps. Honesty—being … Read More
Applying Anonymity I believe the most important Tool in program is anonymity. Using this Tool made me free to grow—and I seemed to change my opinion on any given subject once a week. At first I cried at every meeting. It was God’s way of shutting my mouth so my ears could open. I began to get a handle on my newfound … Read More
Principle Consideration When I use anonymity as a Tool, it helps me apply all the other Tools in a way that places “principles before personalities” (Tradition Twelve). Use of this Tool helps me do my service, attend meetings, be a sponsor, respect others’ eating choices, listen on the telephone, keep my writing focused, and read the literature with an open mind. In this … Read More
Miracle of Meetings For me, meetings are the essential Tool, the base of the program. Without meetings, we would have nothing on which to hang the other Tools. Without meetings, we would have no ground from which to climb the Steps. Without meetings, we would have no hope of gaining serenity and no chance of attaining the abstinence necessary for recovery. A meeting … Read More
Divine Packing Lack of connection to my OA Fellowship is my biggest challenge while on vacation. My regular meeting isn’t available, and my cell phone doesn’t work for making outreach calls when I travel outside the country. Isolation from other OA members, minus my usual routine, is a dangerous formula for me. My last trip to Germany was quite challenging. I was … Read More
Raised Voices My sponsor asked me to consider the Tools of literature and writing. Reading OA literature and writing my thoughts about what I read are essential to my recovery as a compulsive overeater. Here is my perspective on my fifty-eighth day of abstinence: Reading literature is another way of listening to someone’s voice. With OA literature, I can train my ears … Read More
Sponsorship Share I believe the OA Fellowship tells us that all recovering members have two things in common: They have a sponsor, and they are willing to be a sponsor. Being a sponsor has given me so much more than I could ever give. I have been touched by the love and appreciation I receive from those I sponsor. In reaching out to … Read More
Call Out Last year, I made an outreach call during a difficult time. It was my first call to this particular member. Her tone was cold and distant. After a few minutes, I realized I wasn’t getting what I needed from the conversation, so I thanked her for her time and ended the call. I remembered what a wise member once told me: “You can’t … Read More
Service Call The telephone is the hardest Tool for me to use. I have stubbornly resisted this Tool during all my ten years in program. Even in my teenage years, I did not like answering calls from my girlfriends. Whoever heard of a teenage girl who doesn’t like to talk with friends on the phone? My disease causes me to feel inadequate, … Read More