Stand Up and Ask

Actions speak louder than words. When someone in recovery leads by example, then there is little room for debate. There are many ways to act and lead in OA, and I’ve found working my program makes it easier.

For example, when I have a question but no clue how to begin the search for an answer, I first admit to my HP that I am baffled. Next, if I do feel that instinctive nudge, then the best method I know of is to ask HP a question. It will be in the meeting that the answer comes soonest. This way, I know it is up to Higher Power, not under my control.

While in a meeting, be it with a small group, an intergroup, a special event, or even at a region assembly or World Service Business Conference, this custom is still accepted: ask your question and make an open request for feedback after the meeting is over to prevent cross talk. This has worked for me since 1992.

It is not the size of meeting that counts. The amount of people who happen to attend is always invigorating, but it is not my choice. My responsibility is to suit up and show up to be a part of the program that saved my life so that the life of others will be saved.

By openly admitting I do not have all of the answers and continuing to ask for suggestions and guidance, perhaps I am sharing just what another member needs to hear. I will never know, unless I am told, but sometimes this does happen. This is one of the joys of letting go of ego while discovering the true strength of self esteem along the way.

The difference in this discovery is remarkable: no words can be found within me to describe how honest I feel now compared to the façade I left behind. What a blessing this unleashing of the real me has been.

— J