I have found differences between “trying to be abstinent” versus “being willing to be abstinent.” If I am trying to be abstinent, I am in a state of great confusion. If I am willing to be abstinent, I am in a state of great humility. Trying to be abstinent implies I should be able to do it, but I am struggling. Being willing to be abstinent implies I do not know how to do it, but I am willing to learn. If I am trying to be abstinent, I am closed to guidance. If I am willing to be abstinent

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