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Abstinent, Loving Witness

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Active addiction leads to denial, and asking more of a sponsee than I do myself is a red flag. Stinking thinking says my extra weight doesn’t count because I carry it so well. Without abstinence, serenity eludes me, and I’m in bondage to self, reactive and thin skinned about feedback or comments. Boundaries get lost in a food fog, and I find myself taking your inventory or offering advice to fix personal problems. Character defects flare up, and I’m more judgmental, impatient, demanding. First and last, I’m ineffective. How has abstinence helped me be a better sponsor? The first gift

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